10.20.2010

What is "Normal"?

I've been thinking about this one alot today. What is normal? Not as in, what is a normal person like, but as in, what is my normal day to day life?

I think after you have a baby you are always reinventing normal, it's always changing. We, here at the Williams household, have seemed to have our fair share of  "not so great" stuff going on lately, and I am beginning to wonder if it will end, or if that's a new normal.

It kinda just seems like everyday, there's something new. For example,  in the last four days, two girls have grabbed my HOT curling iron and burned their hands. This hasn't happened ONCE since having kids, but now it's happened TWICE in less than a week.

We've had some super-fun stomache bug going through the kids, I am completely tired of going to the doctor, and today, I got a speeding ticket...first one in YEARS! (Kevin should have been driving us downtown to the medical center for JJ's appt, but cause of sick girls I was on my own. I fully blame the girls for this ticket, if only I could make them pay for it!:)

But, is that just life with four kids? I'm not trying to complain, just wondering what normal is, or is life never really normal? Do we just try to get to some point where things are consistant, and call that normal? Are there really BAD days, or just bad moments that we let make up our days without looking at all the good?

For instance, today, after getting a ticket, and driving around the medical center downtown by myself trying to find the parking garage in the midst of all the construction, I got to sit in a waiting room with my three month old and soak him in...all by himself, with no sisters around! We cooed at each other, and he laughed, and it was really nice! (ps, his head is fine and is VERY mild. no worries there, the doctors looked at me like I was some over-anxious mom. Trust me, I would have rather not gone!)

Maybe it's all about perspective, and realizing that with four kids, stuff's gonna happen, and alot of it probably won't be great. But with four kids, I guess there will be lots of amazing times to. Maybe normal doesn't really exist, and we're just tettering between the ups and downs trying to find our balance.

I don't really know...frankly, it's way too late right now, and I'm operating on about 5 very choppy hours of sleep from last night! So, here's to accepting this new normal, and hoping I can look at the good, and not let my children suffer too much in the meantime!

2 comments:

Stephenie said...

I think you nailed it. What really is normal? All those things you described are probably part of the package of having a lot of children. You are a great mom and a great person, keep up the good wrok.

Tisha said...

You're so right. If we're expecting life to be some definition of normal, we'll always be disappointed. Life can be miraculous, even on those bad days, when we look for the small happy moments. Like you and JJ getting some alone time.
And they're not going to be babies forever, things will get easier! You're doing awesome!

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